Men Are Pigs?
I was talking with my ‘little sister’ yesterday and we were catching up on our lives. This woman is amazing. She’s bright, ambitious, focused, sweet, adorable, and very pretty. Her energy is powerful and she encourages me so much in my personal and professional life. If I could go back in time, I’d like to have followed her path. She and I were discussing our lives and she caught me up on a relationship she’d been in the last time we spoke. She was heartbroken. The relationship has ended because the guy cheated on her by having sex with his old flame. She is a good girl and did nothing but give him the best. She also told me that a mutual friend of ours also broke up with her man cuz he was cheating. This young lady, just like my ‘little sister’, has it going on. She is a diva and an upcoming engineer.
As she shared her heart and pain with me, my mind was racing. I was thinking to myself, if men would cheat on these girls then they are 1) stupid and 2) selfish pigs. She was asking my opinion about things and I didn’t know what to tell her. I am in the midst of healing from my own relationship drama. I also have no answers because although I know wonderful men who are great boyfriends and husbands, I am familiar with more men who are not.
Why is it that men cheat on good women? I do know that these girls are abstaining from sex before marriage. Do you think that has something to do with it? One day while crying over my X-factor at my parents’ home, my Stepdad says to me, “[JoiDoe], men like sluts and you are not a slut. I know because I was out there. You are a good girl and unfortunately it takes a man a while to see that he has a good woman. He’ll grow up.” Now, my dude didn’t cheat on me with another woman but what my steppops said really resonated with me. Do men really love sluts? Do they love good girls? I think it is a mixed bag.
But why do men cheat? My dad cheated on my mom. She divorced him for that. Very few of my friends can say that their fathers didn’t cheat on their moms at some point. Very few of my girlfriends can say that they never experienced their men cheating on them at some point. I cannot say that myself. What is the deal? Are men really pigs? I don’t think so and I hope not but I don’t really get the whole cheating thing…
As she shared her heart and pain with me, my mind was racing. I was thinking to myself, if men would cheat on these girls then they are 1) stupid and 2) selfish pigs. She was asking my opinion about things and I didn’t know what to tell her. I am in the midst of healing from my own relationship drama. I also have no answers because although I know wonderful men who are great boyfriends and husbands, I am familiar with more men who are not.
Why is it that men cheat on good women? I do know that these girls are abstaining from sex before marriage. Do you think that has something to do with it? One day while crying over my X-factor at my parents’ home, my Stepdad says to me, “[JoiDoe], men like sluts and you are not a slut. I know because I was out there. You are a good girl and unfortunately it takes a man a while to see that he has a good woman. He’ll grow up.” Now, my dude didn’t cheat on me with another woman but what my steppops said really resonated with me. Do men really love sluts? Do they love good girls? I think it is a mixed bag.
But why do men cheat? My dad cheated on my mom. She divorced him for that. Very few of my friends can say that their fathers didn’t cheat on their moms at some point. Very few of my girlfriends can say that they never experienced their men cheating on them at some point. I cannot say that myself. What is the deal? Are men really pigs? I don’t think so and I hope not but I don’t really get the whole cheating thing…
posted by JoiDoe @ 12:23 PM
4 Comments:
I dont know, but i feel you. Sometimes, i read your blogs and think i wrote it myself. I want to think that my man wont be trifling or cheat, but that is hard to believe when that has all I have ever seen in my life. I always try to convince the teen girls i work with to wait until marriage to have sex, but they dont want to get married or even believe in that institution. I dont blame them and think the same way. I think to myself, why do i think I am going to somehow get a good may, nobody else does.
"Why is it that men cheat on good women?"
"Selfishness" said Victor Panlilio
"Do you think that (abstinence) has something to do with it?" No, they would cheat anyway because it's in their blood.
Do men really love sluts? Yep because many men value sex over commitment.
Do they love good girls?
Good guys, to the extent they can be found, love good girls. And the bad guys, love to have sex with good girls, as a challenge. But in the end, women are just a piece of meat to the bad boys. These dudes value a woman's booty, but not her heart.
Are men really pigs?
Many are, that's a fact. Women just need to value highly those who are not and make the players pay, not play. If all the good guys have dates on Friday nights and all the players are wondering why they can't get any, the world would change. But as it is, the players have a field day out here. It is truly the land of (free) milk and (free) honey for the players and thugs.
I would like to know the difference between sluts and good girls. JoiDoe, please address this in a post. Where do you draw the line?
Hell yeah we like sluts. I is amazing to as I start interacting with older men that a married and have been for years that they cheating on their wives. Now I myself have cheated on every girl that I have been with and I don’t know why I can’t stay faithful. I often think to myself that went I get married I will never cheat on my wife. But after talking to these old head I start to think damn I am I also destined to cheat on my wife as well. This is a terrible feeling. I mean these guys do it with relative ease too. Talking about how they go on vacation and run trains on youngins. Sometimes when I cheat, I also think to myself is it the females fault and is there something that she doesn’t give me that I am seeking from someone else. If that is the case I guess I shouldn’t be with her in the first place. I’m about to write my own blog about this whole circumstance next week too. I honestly can’t understand how people stay faithful, which is something I could never fathom until recently. I think I am growing out of that stage that most men go through and I am just looking for one female. As far as your lil sister man if shorty is not putting out of course she is going to get cheated on! I mean our society is too consumed with sex and this shouldn’t come to any surprise to you or her that she was cheated on. I am not saying that is right, that’s just how is today. Its good that she is not putting out, but trust dude is going to get it from somewhere if he isn’t getting it at home “and you know this man”.
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