Post Wedding: Part II
Ok, this is an actual blog entry.
Married people really prefer to be with other married people. If you are an attractive single, then forget it! You’ll only see your girlfriend and hubby on national holidays. At the wedding today, the groom (whom I have known longer than the bride) offered me a pound/dap instead of a hug. I was like, “whoa”. What is that about? I gave his ass a hug anyway but felt so embarrassed for some reason. I couldn’t believe it. It was as if there was a set of social norms that I had missed or certainly hadn’t been told about.
Prior to that, I ran into M & M [another newly wed couple]. The groom is really good friends with a mutual male friend, Chris. He and his wife greeted me, took a quick picture, and before I could even form my lips to ask about my old homeboy, they exited. Again, I was like, “whoa”. What is going on?
I was so blown because I was never interested with either dude. I could understand if I was an X of either of them. I suspect that my singleness has burned a red S on my chest that all married couples can see and then do there best to avoid.
Bastards…
Prior to that, I ran into M & M [another newly wed couple]. The groom is really good friends with a mutual male friend, Chris. He and his wife greeted me, took a quick picture, and before I could even form my lips to ask about my old homeboy, they exited. Again, I was like, “whoa”. What is going on?
I was so blown because I was never interested with either dude. I could understand if I was an X of either of them. I suspect that my singleness has burned a red S on my chest that all married couples can see and then do there best to avoid.
Bastards…
posted by JoiDoe @ 9:39 AM
3 Comments:
The vibes you are picking up are real. I think you better get married so you can hook back up with the sophisticated crowd. Stop this nonsense about a BOYfriend to be intimate with. You need a husband.
The sad part about this society (which is illustrated in your comment) is the idea that a woman needs to be married in order to have a good life. i am mature enough to recognize that i am not ready for that committment. i think there are steps to be made in certain processes as one just doesnt wake up one day married with children. if you believe the 'sophisticate crowd' consists of only married people i am leery of your advice/opinions/views.
Well, we need families in our Black communities. A bunch of single people doing their own thing does not help. We must return to family values -- and a part of that is the expectation that people will get married and stay married. Some say I'm a dreamer but I'm not the only one.
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